I didn't know I was pro life. I guess I assumed most people want children when they are married. As a male I thought I wasn't really suppose to have an opinion on a woman's right to abort. That all changed for me about 3 years ago.
My wife and I tried to have a child for almost 5 years. Three doctors told my wife that she wouldn't be able to give birth, thinking back I realized no special tests were done and nothing was done to see what could be done.
By this point we believed our only option was to adopt, which I'm still all for. (A great alternative to an unwanted pregnancy)
But during this time, my wife found a new OBGYN, whom was very optamistic and suggested prenatal vitemans for her. I was like, "Really, why would that work?" After only 30 days of being on vitimans my wife was pregnant! After 5 years and loosing hope, we were going to have a child.
That joy turned into a very strict lifestyle. My wife quickly bought prenancy books, we took classes, ate certain foods at specific weeks to ensure a perfectly healthy baby.
And this was what most new parents do... again I assume. Sadly we found out after only 20 weeks of being pregnant that our daughter would have Myelomeningocele (Spina bifida). We were told what it meant, how it would affect her "quality of life," and if we would like to abort... at 20 weeks!
Almost half way, 4 months into the prenancy, forget about developmental stages of a "fetis," We were just starting to feel our precious little mircle move around, and a doctor, with the serious of convictions was seriously asking us if we wanted to abort.
Without hesitation, without question and in pratical unision, we both bosted a NO! We couldn't imagine, that after all these years of waiting, that God would finally bless us with a child and we were going to throw it away just because she wouldn't be "Normal."
It wasn't until this moment, that we realized how sick and preverted the abortionists can be.
Our daughter can wheel into any room, and light it up with such joy, her presence is one of pure joy, peace. Her smile could cure the sadest or darkest of moments. And her touch is as gental as a flower. Like a Rose.
My daughter doesn't walk...yet, she doesn't have complete control over her bladder...yet, she has tubes to control the flow of spinal fluid to prevent Hydrocephalus...for now, she has rods to keep her back straight...for now, but she is smarter than most her age, she is becomeing more beautiful everyday, she strives and succeeds where others fail.
She is strong, vibrate and determined to live life to it's fullest. And we will do everything in our power to do that.
I couldn't imagine my life without her. I'm honored that God Chose us to care for her.
If you know your are pregnant with a child that will have a disability, I pray and encourage you to choose life.
She's 2 now, and she's full of life and inspiration, she's a great older sister! She cares for her younger brother with the greatest of care. Take the time and see what you will miss out on. Choose life.
No comments:
Post a Comment